Don’t Make a Resolution, Create an Affirmation
A more effective way to initiate change in your life is to create an affirmation.
What exactly is an affirmation? What does it look like? How should it sound? What phrases work, which ones don’t? An affirmation is a statement that affirms, make firm, that which you believe. It is a statement about that which you perceive to be true. You can have positive or negative affirmations. Most of us have lived our lives telling ourselves about our faults. We also rarely hesitate to tell others about our faults. When was the last time you graciously accepted a compliment? When was the last time you complimented yourself? When I began writing out my affirmations, I discovered the power of controlling my thoughts and taking charge of my life. For me the joy was also about creating the affirmations; testing the words that resonated and deciding what was so important to me that I would focus on it day after day.
Not sure it will work for you? Think about this. All those negative statements you’ve been telling yourself for as long as you can remember how have they been working? They’ve probably worked quite well but not to your benefit. Changing them to positive statements will work too and think how much better you’ll feel. What does your self-talk sound like? Sometimes, you’re having the conversation when you’re alone. Sometimes, you’re having the conversation when you’re with others and you’re not feeling comfortable, maybe you’re feeling very uncomfortable. What are the phrases you’ve adopted over the years? “Boy, am I stupid.” or “I never get it right!” How about, “I can’t do that. It frightens me.” This is about changing the things you tell yourself. You can do it. Why would you want to start saying positive things to yourself? Because, it’s a powerful, free tool that makes a positive difference in the quality of your life. Begin by noticing when your self-talk weakens you, makes you feel powerless, or useless. Pay attention!
When creating an affirmation, it is helpful to use words that resonate deeply with you. Try out some of the words; see if they cause a visceral reaction. The following list is one I have used for several yoga retreats I’ve facilitated and many of which you will find in my daily affirmations. Some are adjectives and some are nouns. It doesn’t matter, use them anyway that works for you.
The quality of my life is all about how I perceive every event and person, including myself. If I can change myself for the better, won’t that help others? If you did the same thing, how would that help you, the world, or at least your world? It’s an amazing process. Do it! Take full advantage of it. Write them down, write them every day, post them on your bathroom mirror, by your doorway, on your computer and wait! Instead of another set of New Year’s resolutions you didn’t keep, you’ll have created a set of affirmations that will change your life in ways you never before dreamed possible.