Never Give Up
a remarkable golfer and a terrific fiddler.
again I am learning about who I am and how I approach life by two of the more
challenging hobbies I have chosen to pursue for these many years. I hate to quit at something I’ve made up my
mind to learn. My learning style is more
about being slow and steady. I have
discovered that as long as I don’t give up, sooner or later I can become fairly
proficient at what I want to do. I do
have a tendency to think of myself as a “jack of all trades, a master of
none.” That’s not a very positive
affirmation, is it? In some ways it has
served me well because I will attempt to do something regardless of my
knowledge or skill level. I don’t think
I have to be perfect. I don’t expect
perfection so why not give it a shot.
Unfortunately for me, however, I have a tendency to focus on those
things at which I am not exceptional and not claim those skills at which I am
very accomplished. There are things I do
very well. There are skills and talents
of which I have pursued and worked hard and feel good about but there are those
of which I have told myself I will never be masterful. I’ve often thought there are just some things
where I reach my level of mediocrity and can’t seem to break through it or
chose not to break through it. Golf and
fiddling are two of those things. I thought I’d made peace with that. I thought I was just fine still plugging
along and not seeing any great improvement until my chiropractor, Joanne Noel,
took some time to help me reframe my intentions.
mentioned my playing golf during my visit to her. I’m sure I didn’t sound too excited. “Really” I tell myself and
sometimes others, “I just play to keep my husband company and to be with
my son and daughter-in-law. If I don’t
keep score, I’m a really good golfer. I am!” But, I don’t know how to not keep score. Even when I don’t write it down, I find
myself counting each stroke in my head.
At the end of 18 holes I always know how many times I have swung the
club and it’s always a lot of times. I
really don’t understand it. I have a few
flubs now and then but if you were watching me I think you’d see that I hit the
ball fairly far, I have a nice short game and I’ve become a pretty good putter
but when I add all that up, it’s always a lot.
How does one determine if a score represents a lot of swings? It’s determined by one’s handicap and my
handicap is the highest a woman can have.
This after playing this sport as of this year for 46 years!
not a numerical handicap to determine one’s fiddling skill. As of this writing I haven’t been playing the fiddle for 46
years. I really wish I had been. I imagine I’d be much more skilled. Although, if my golfing skills are an
indication of how long it would take before I became a master, it might not
make much of a difference but I do imagine, I actually dream that if I’d
learned to play as a child and had practiced and played all these many years, I
would play with abandonment and I’d make this wonderful sound and perhaps I
could even play by ear. I’d be able to
join any jam session and when the song began there I’d be fiddling along either
picking up the tune or adding to the beat with my knowledge and skill. It’s a dream.
It’s good to have dreams but you can sit around forever wishing
something to be true and if it involves learning and practice, it will never
happen. Never! Never! Never!
teacher, Mara Shea sent me the link to this You-tube video: Never Give Up. If you have anything in your life you’re
working at improving, I highly recommend watching it. It’s not about golfing or fiddling. It’s the heroic story of a Gulf War veteran
who was left severely handicapped after his time of service. He was told he would never be able to walk on
his own again. It took quite a while but
he decided they were wrong and he found a teacher and began practicing
yoga. It documents his journey. With dedication and persistence he completely
changed his life. I wasn’t sure if Mara
sent it to me because I am a Yoga teacher and she knew I’d love it or because
she wanted me to know that if I continue to practice and not give up, someday
my dream of being a terrific fiddler will finally come true. Regardless of her reason, I found it to be
moving and motivational.
chiropractor, Joanne Noel responded to my comments about my golf game by
telling me the story of a patient of hers who after years of being a sub par
golfer one day decided to become a scratch golfer. That’s someone with a zero handicap. Joanne shared that her patient hadn’t yet
reached her goal and maybe she never would but that her patient now had a
remarkable golf game. Remarkable! Right then and there I knew I would one day
have a remarkable golf game. Mara Shea
encourages me to become the best fiddler I can possibly be. She’d love to see my dream of being a
terrific fiddler come true. Michelangelo
said, “The greatest danger for most of us is not that our aim is too high
and we miss it, but that it is too low and we reach it.” I have been aiming too low. But now, I am not going to simply sit around
and wish that I become a remarkable golfer and a terrific fiddler, I have a new
affirmation and I’ve already seen the beginnings of its power. I have a vision and I am ready to work.
your visions? What dreams do you have
that you are willing to work at? I could
continue writing this blog. It’s such a
powerful concept, the concept of visualizing our lives and then stepping up our
efforts to bring our visualization into reality but, I have to go practice the
fiddle and later today, I will be practicing my golf swing. I took a lesson this week and I need to
relearn the way I hit my clubs. I can
already see that if I practice this new technique my swing will be more consistent
and the ball will go further. I can see
that handicap score lowering any day now and I can hear that jam session
calling me. I’m getting ready!