Affirmation: I know life will present many challenges and
I have a tool box filled with lots of helpful equipment.
conversation was about the chaotic state of my home because of a
renovation. Oh, I fully recognized the
blessing of being able to perform a renovation but the project had now been
going on for months and was running much longer than had been estimated.
tired. Way too much energy was being
expended on this, not to mention money and I wanted to put my home back in
order. The homeowner I was speaking with
had just completed building a house, not on her own but she was responsible for
all of the decisions and it was a beautiful home, the most stunning home I
could ever remember being in. She
explained to me that one shouldn’t be asking themselves about the
“ifs” one might experience during the building process but one should
recognize that there would be “whens” and the real question was how
was one going to deal with them? What
did one need to do to be prepared when issues would come along?
optimist by choice. When someone tells
me something is going to go well and work out, I choose to believe them. It’s not always the truth. Stuff still happens but I haven’t focused on
what might go wrong. I am that person who creates positive affirmations. I am that person who expects things to go
Buddhists say one should imagine the glass broken. The Christians refer to the “practice of
faith” and the yogi studies a Klesha called raga which refers to an attachment to pleasure. Whatever faith you look at they all have one
very important feature in common; they recognize that life is not a bowl of
cherries. Life has pits and we should be
aware of that teaching.
question that arises is how does one prepare oneself for the difficulties life
will present? Certainly going around waiting for the next shoe to drop or for
the clouds to appear is not a very joyful way to live one’s life but we all
know stuff will come along, little things and difficult things with which we
will have to deal.
someone who is all about maintenance. I
was a great Girl Scout. I try to always
be prepared. If there is some step I can
take to hopefully make life easier or smoother, I will usually take it. I am that person who gets her flu shot every
year. I take my vitamins, especially
that calcium and fish oil and now extra vitamin D. I brush and floss my teeth twice a day. God forbid they should rot away and fall
out. I exercise daily to keep everything
in good working order and to hopefully avoid becoming immobile and decrepit. I
am the person who buys travel insurance.
I’m not worried about any of these things. I just feel like if I can take steps to
insure my life goes along smoothly, I should.
I have many friends who do not think like me. I have one friend who has never gotten a flu
shot and as of this writing, has never gotten the flu. Thank heavens! I also have a friend who never does any
maintenance on her home. I am always
looking around my house and trying to spiff it up before something drastic
happens, like an exploding hot water heater or an ant infestation or, well you
can probably add your own stuff to that list.
huge red tool box. I mean I need all
those different type of screw drivers just in case the screw is a Phillips or a
Flat-head or it’s big or very tiny. I
know many of you completely understand but my friend, she never does anything
to her home until it becomes some sort of an issue for her. She cannot for the life of her understand why
I am always doing my best to forestall something in the home from becoming a
major investment. I believe that if I
take care of it now, it’ll be a little problem rather than a huge one. We just don’t agree but that’s ok. We love one another anyway. Unfortunately, the results of my maintenance
approach to life really doesn’t seem to make my life that much easier than her
life is for her. Things I never even dreamed
would occur, occur. So, the question is,
“How can I best prepare for the whens of life? What tools do I have in life’s tool box for
when a screw comes loose or falls out and everything it’s been holding
together, falls apart?”
it’s my first defense. I believe in
answered prayer. I don’t understand how
it works but I fully trust that it does.
I write. It centers me and helps me see things more clearly. It makes me calmer.
it is known to increase endorphins and reduce stress. It doesn’t matter if you go to your mat to do
yoga or take a walk or go play golf. It
takes you out of your routine and helps calm you.
friend or find a counselor. Pick up the
phone or go visit a friend. Don’t try to
go it alone. Most people like to be
helpful and most of us need help to get through life’s challenges, sometimes
even the little ones.
something funny, laugh.
get a hug or two and finally, remember to Breathe. Take a few deep breaths every so often and
don’t hesitate to sigh them out. Even if
you haven’t fixed the entire problem with that deep breath, you’ve at least
released it for that moment and life really is about living one moment at a