Affirmation: I am the product of my genes and my thoughts and my thoughts influence my cellular structure.
Stephen Covey the author of the 7 Habits of Highly Effective People tells a story about a man on a subway train with his children. The children are out of control and most of the people on the train are looking very annoyed. Have you ever ridden the subway? Usually the only noise one hears is the train itself. It can be a very meditative space. Finally the man looks up and explains to the people in his immediate area that his wife has just died and he’s not sure what to do next. No one was annoyed any longer. They shifted their perception. But, couldn’t they have held a more compassionate response to the family without that information? If they were going to judge couldn’t they have given him, the father, the benefit of the doubt in the beginning?
My plan for playing my fiddle at my group’s very first performance was to occasionally fake fiddle. I mean there were twelve of us. Who other than my teacher could possibly tell if I missed a few notes or dropped out if I were totally lost? Well, the two people who sat down only four feet from me were concert musicians. I had recently been introduced to them and I was told the gentleman was a concert violinist and composer. And, there they were directly in front of me! I knew without a doubt that they could hear every wrong note I hit and I hit many many wrong notes. I knew what they were thinking. I made up a whole store in my head and it wasn’t very affirming. In fact, it was quite demoralizing.